Let’s face it, not everyone has the ability to make confident decisions. How many times have you been faced with a decision and not known which path to take? What emotions were running through your body? I can guarantee you there was a rush of frustration and anger because you find you doubt yourself. We make decisions constantly throughout our day, whether it’s deciding what to eat for breakfast or what television show to watch after work. Decisions shouldn’t have a negative impact and contrary to what you may have heard, it is possible and in arm’s reach for you to learn how to make quick and confident decisions leaving you in a state of tranquility when done.
Here are 3 simple steps to help you reach those confident decisions.
Construct a web of pros and cons.
As you know, there will always be positive and negative aspects to a decision. To help make the decision when you’re lacking that “gut feeling” whip out a pen and paper and begin to brainstorm. Create a web of facts – your pros and cons of the decision. Be sure to think short term and long term. Doubts are not always a bad thing; they just force you to be prepared, organized and ready for whatever falls in front of you. Try not to get too caught up in the web (pun intended) as it may create an even harder decision in the long run and lead to hampering your progress.
Trust the gut to keep you out of a rut!
When we are faced with a decision, most times we know the answer immediately but it is all the agonizing that gets us into trouble. Knowing the answer is your gut instinct and we tend to shy away from making those quick decisions because we don’t have the trust built up for ourselves. We are constantly afraid of what others will think – in fact, we are more concerned about the things we cannot change than the things we can. With this I mean that you will always have one or two people who do not agree with your decision but you need to be concerned about the reasoning behind it. What is good for one person may not work for another.
Focus on self-trust.
It’s difficult to put trust into yourself but it is a necessary characteristic you need in order to progress through your decisions. Confidence and trust becomes the ability to be dependent upon you to make the right moves. Try surrounding yourself with positive energy. Positive energy is contagious and is certainly overpowering when it comes to negative energy. You have the decision making qualities but you are not acting boldly to achieve the end result you have in mind. If you don’t trust yourself how can you expect to trust others? If you don’t trust others you will never have solid relationships. Set challenges for yourself and pay close attention to the emotion when you have completed that challenge. I bet you will feel powerful and full of excitement knowing you have made a decision and completed the challenge – overcoming your obstacles. You will reinforce the idea of inner confidence and reach new heights with this new drive to thrive attitude.
Try starting a success journal of your own. Track only the positive things in your life. Track successes and even those feel good moments that put a smile on your face. By focusing only on the positive aspects of your life you are able to build confidence and trust in yourself that your decisions have gotten you somewhere. And don’t forget, even the smallest stories are great motivators – so if you decided upon new decor for your office space and it made you feel great, go for it and write it down! Don’t waste another moment pondering about decisions, build the self trust and confidence today.
To be the owner of your own success journal make your way to the Getting To Someday store or give us a call and we would be more than happy to discuss further.
Hannah Gzik is event coordinator and administrative assistant for BizXcel Inc.